Family

This Thanksgiving weekend was so great! There was SO much food and games and fun! My family really is so great! I went down to Utah and was able to see both my Mom's side of the family and my Dad's. I noticed so many things and trends in those families that really apply to this class! My Mom has 5 siblings and this weekend I really noticed some clicks. 4 of the siblings and their families (including mine) all click together really well. The other two families don't click with everyone else very well and are their own subset within the family. I also noticed the same thing on my Dad's side except within the 7 families, there are 4 different subsets-one of which is a subset by itself. Family is so great and I love that I can now understand the way my family works and apply what I have learned.

What does every couple need?...Good Communication!

Communication is one of the most important parts of a successful marriage. If there isn't good communication between a couple, then the couple will eventually lead different lives and may fall out of love. I really love our discussion this week on how the First Presidency and the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles conducts their weekly meetings. They have a meeting the same day, time, and place every single week. Everyone sits in a specific place depending on their position in the church and the meetings are always conducted the same. It always starts out with each member arriving early to show their love and appreciation for one another. Then a prayer is said to invite the spirit. Then as they discuss their topics for the week, each member takes a turn to state what they believe and how they feel about the subject, so that way each person is able to express revelation the may receive in order to find the Lord's Will. They then close with a prayer and then enjoy a dessert. I think this method would be such a great way to conduct family counsels and couple counsels within the home. It is a great way of communicating because each person gets a chance to speak while the others listen and a decision is made through the spirit.

Family Crisis

This week we talked about family crisis' and family stressors. We were asked to create a top-ten list of family crisis' in our families and I realized that it was actually very hard. The first one I came up with was when my Dad lost his job. I feel like our entire lives had to be adjusted because we all were used to working through things together. My Dad became very down on himself and felt like he couldn't provide for his family the way he was supposed to. Since he was so down on himself, his mood and his attitude changed and affected every one elses' moods. Not only did it affect our moods, but it also affected our daily habits. We had to stop wanting so many of the more desirable foods and had to just focus on only having the basics. My Dad had to sell our four-wheelers and our go-cart and our nice truck. It was hard on us kids but we knew that it's really what needed to happen for us to survive. Although it was a rough time in our family, we were abel to work through it and stick together no matter what. I believe that we go through these kinds of trials to make us stronger. I know that whenever my family goes through a trial, it's almost like we pull each other closer so our tight circle of trust and love has even less of a chance of breaking.

Fidelity

One topic that really intrigued me this week was the subject of fidelity in a marriage. Most people think of fidelity as being committed to your partner and not having any other sexual relations with another person. We talked about how a marriage is harmed when a spouse even flirts with the opposite sex or shows interest either intentionally or unintentionally. One huge problem that is affecting many marriages is Facebook. Facebook is a site where people create a profile of themselves and everything about them. You are able to chat with friends on there and basically know all about them. Facebook can be really tough on a marriage because a relationship could easily start from there. A spouse may begin talking with a member of the opposite sex with no intention of cheating on their spouse, but often times that is what it leads to. It may seem harmless to the couple at the time because that spouse just seems like he/she is just being friendly, but it is better to prevent these strong attractions that could develop. Not only will it hinder their relationship as a whole, but it will really begin to effect the other spouse because they may begin to feel like too much time is being spent on the computer talking with someone else. As a married couple, the most important person in the world should be the spouse and all secrets should be confided within that relationships. With their best friend. Once those boundaries are crossed, the marriage is at an even greater risk of not working out.